Understanding EMDR: What to Expect

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing.

1.       EMDR works with how your brain processes memories. When we experience trauma, or distressing or confusing events, our brain doesn’t always process the memory in a helpful way. The memory (or beliefs associated with it) can feel “stuck” — and make it feel as if it's still happening. EMDR helps reprocess these distressing memories and associated beliefs so they feel more like the past, and less overwhelming in the present.

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2.       EMDR involves bilateral stimulation. This might sound technical, but it simply means stimulating both sides of the brain — often through eye movements, tapping, or sounds. While doing this, you’ll focus on the memory and notice what comes up. You don’t need to talk through every detail.

3.       EMDR is structured but flexible. EMDR follows an eight-phase model, which includes getting to know you and your history, preparing you with tools and resources (the amount of time spent on this can vary according to need), identifying target memories, and reprocessing them over time. It’s not rushed — we go at a pace that feels right for you.

4.       EMDR doesn't erase the memory — but it helps change how you experience it.

You’ll still remember the event, but it may no longer feel as emotionally charged or distressing. Many people describe feeling lighter, clearer, or more grounded after processing.

5.       EMDR is collaborative.

Like other therapies, EMDR is a team process. We work together, check in regularly, and adapt things to what works for you. Safeness, trust, and consent are key at every stage.

6.       EMDR focuses on past, present, and future.

We often begin by working on past events that are still affecting you. But we also explore present triggers and help you build tools for facing future situations with more confidence and ease.

7.       EMDR can feel intense — but also empowering.

Processing difficult memories can bring up strong feelings. That’s natural and part of the healing. You’ll have grounding techniques to support you — and we’ll go gently. Most people feel a strong sense of relief and clarity as the process unfolds.

While EMDR is a powerful therapy, it’s just one of several approaches I use in therapy. We’ll always tailor therapy to your individual needs and goals. EMDR is an approach that's appropriate for many issues, not just PTSD, however you can read more about trauma, PTSD and EMDR here.

If you'd like to know more or discuss whether therapy could be helpful for you feel free to get in touch here.